“It’s not you, it’s me.”

“It’s not you, it’s me.”

The most cliche line of all time! Am I right? When someone says this to you, you think to yourself ‘bull crap… it’s definitely me…’  Then you begin to question what you did wrong, how you screwed up, how you aren’t good enough for that person. Yet when you are the one saying these words to someone else, it really is true to you. By saying that simple sentence you try to take a burden for more than you can carry because you feel guilty and ashamed and think you deserve to feel the pain and hurt that you are feeling.

But you don’t.

In my first blog, I wrote about how James 1:2-3 are my favorite verses (and they definitely still are!), but this week I was really challenged when the next verse flew at me and felt like slapped me in the face, that’s how badly I need James 1:4 in my life. It reads:

Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

I cannot even begin to say how this verse is already beginning to work in my life, I even put it on a pink post-it note above my desk so that I can see it all the time (like when I am contemplating whether or not I should do homework…). Going back to this verse, God is the only one who can make each of us complete. We are not fulfilled by things of this world whether it be wealth, popularity, relationships, or so on. Sure, we all want to be financially stable, liked by the people around us, and have someone to love and be loved by; however, we should always go to God first, for he is the one who gives us these blessings in the right time.

There will definitely be times when you think or say “it’s not you, it’s me” but I’d like to challenge that when this comes to mind, counter it with: ” it’s something for God to heal.” Ultimately, that’s what I know I need. I’ve tried to shoulder the weight of my sin on my own before, and wow… that really tears me down, just like the devil wants. But when I cry out to my heavenly Father and confess that I have wronged him and those around me, that’s when the magic starts to happen. Like James 1:4 tells us, perseverance has to finish it’s work (which is not always going to be a quick and easy process), but when it does we will lack nothing.

This past weekend I went to a church twice in one weekend, Saturday night and Sunday morning. Yes, same churchsame pastor, same message, same everything… but it was AWESOME. When I went into the sanctuary I was handed a bulletin and this is what it said…


When I looked down at that piece of paper, I felt tears prick the corners of my eyes. I knew I was in for a message I needed to hear (so much so I heard it twice). Pastor Jarrod talked about how our society views debts as: “YOU owe… YOU pay.” But he countered this idea with God’s view of our debts as: “YOU owe… I’LL pay.” God pays for our sins, even though we don’t deserve it… When we choose not to forgive ourselves, it’s like saying that God’s grace, Jesus dying on a cross, wasn’t good enough for us. That is not true.

Pastor Jarrod posed the question:

Isn’t sin already forgiven?

Be set free so that you can continue to grow closer to God, not away from him.

James 1:2-4

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.


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